One of the things you will need if you are looking at domestic adoption is probably going to be an adoptive parents’ profile. An adoptive parents profile usually includes a letter to the birth mother as well as a couple of photos of the family and perhaps some other information regarding the family. In this article we are going to look at these elements of an adoptive parents’ profile and how you can go about putting together a good adoptive parents’ profile.
Your counselor will probably help you put together your adoptive parents’ profile but generally this will include your “Dear Birthparent” letter, some photos, autobiographies of your family, as well as some other information documents. Before putting together your profile think about which photos you are going to include in the profile and why and also what you want to say about yourself in the letter and the autobiographies.
The first thing to remember when creating your adoptive parents’ profile is to always remain honest. One of the hardest things for a birth mother to do is to give her child up for adoption in most cases and so you need to be sensitive to this and try to help her by being as honest as possible with regards to your family. For more info see http://www.childadoptionguide.org/Adoption_Photo_Listing.html
When creating your adoptive parents’ profile think about what questions you would like answered if you were considering giving your child up for adoption and try to answer these questions for the birth mother. You may even think of questions which she has not thought of but which she would consider important in evaluating who she would like to raise her child.
Be sensitive to the needs of the birth mother and her feelings when creating your adoptive parents’ profile. We mentioned this before but this is a very emotional time for the birth mother in most cases and if you come across as harsh and judgmental then it will just make it even more difficult for her to give you her child. Show love and acceptance and then she will know that her child will also be loved and accepted by you.
You should also include a variety of photos showing your family (you, your spouse and any other children you may have) in different settings and of course, the more cheerful, loving and supportive these photos look the better for you. The photos you include in your adoptive parents’ profile should also give a sense of who you are, what you enjoy and what your family is like.
In conclusion, an adoptive parents profile is a collection of photos, information documents and a letter which enable the birth parent to choose the right adoptive family for their child. This profile should be made to give a true reflection of your family and it should be sensitive to the feelings of the birth parent and also include a number of photos which show what your family is like. By creating your adoptive parents’ profile in this manner you are giving the birthparent the best possible information you can in order to help them decide whether you are the people she wants to raise her child.
